My mother-in-law raised four boys. Four! Boys! That deserves a trophy or something. Let’s face it, though, men just aren’t great about things like Mother’s Day. We girls get it, don’t we?
Lest some of you men beg to differ, let me just ask you: How many women changed their profile pictures on Facebook to a picture of their moms today? How many men did the same?
Go ahead…count. I’ll wait.
As a mother of two boys, I don’t worry too much about this. I understand that holiday remembrances are not often a guy’s priority. Boys don’t plot for weeks about how they will surprise their moms this year. (“Hmmm…should I get her the manicure or the facial?”) They don’t call us up to chat or drop by to take us to lunch. But it’s all good. Moms of boys know that their boys love them–even whey they are being…well…typical boys.
But since she did raise FOUR BOYS, I thought my mother-in-law deserved a little tribute today too. Over the years, I’ve come to know a three critical things about my relationship with her: She loves me. She will fight for me. And, annoying as it is, sometimes she’s (darn-it) right!
Marilyn is outspoken, and she’ll tell you so! Sometimes, this makes it hard for her to have easy friendships, but there is something amazingly redemptive in this very aspect of her character. She has remarkable compassion for outsiders. She’s been teased about her tendency to collect “stray puppies” in the form of lost, broken, lonely people. She spots them a mile off, and she swoops them up when others won’t go near.
Marilyn came to a life of faith later in life, and perhaps that’s why she is so ardent about it. She remembers all too well what life was like without it. Her hope in God got her through some tough times, including the loss of her oldest son, T.J., to cancer. Amazingly, she can still declare a steady faith in a loving God. You cannot watch faith like that and not be touched by it. I am grateful to have had the opportunity.
I love you, Mom.
(Oh…and thanks for Barry. I still say I got the pick of the litter! ;))