My sister-in-law, Lisa, shared a link on Facebook to an article with the above title. The list was compiled by a woman named Bonnie Ware who worked for many years with the dying. The #1 deathbed regret?
I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
Ms. Ware writes, “Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.” Ms. Ware encourages us to honour our dreams before a lack of health limits or eliminates our choices.
I question my sanity regularly, especially since I began working for myself just as the recession was beginning to bloom. What kind of crazy person does that? But my gut keeps telling me the same thing: Keep moving forward. I am learning that when you go after your passion, there really is no roadmap. Even with a business plan in hand, you have test your assumptions and make adjustments on a daily basis.
You also have to become very comfortable with uncertainty. If you can trust God, this isn’t so bad. In fact, it’s a good place to be. I often find myself having conversations with God that go something like this: “Ok, God, I’m moving forward with this idea. Are you watching? Ok…here I go. Stop me if this is wrong!” And then I trust that God will do just that.
I’m not sitting around waiting for daily epiphanies before I move. I’m just sticking my toes in the water and watching to see if they part. If they do, guess what? I’m moving. You’ll soon find me making my way across the riverbed. If the waters don’t move, it’s time for a route correction. And if I’m listening, I can hear those heavenly GPS directions and adjust to them while I’m in motion. It is much, much harder if I’m stuck in neutral. My friend Sonya said her father used to remind her, “It’s very difficult to turn the wheels of parked car.”
Don’t sit around wondering if you can pursue your passion. Just go after it, but keep an eye and ear peeled to heaven for those route corrections. You can trust.
(You can read the full article about deathbed regrets at http://thenextweb.com/lifehacks/2011/05/31/the-top-5-regrets-people-make-on-their-deathbeds/)